This series of articles are about relationship advice. I don’t want to get to preachy but I feel like I have something to say about relationships. I’ve been married for 10 years now and we still like each other. That’s saying something. I know many people have been married longer than I and what works for one couple might not work for another but there are a few universal truths that I think apply to all relationships, no matter the dynamic.
The whole premise of this series is expectation. My thesis is simply status thus: Unrealistic and therefore unrealized expectations will kill relationships.
Let’s be honest, there are alot of things that we expect out of a partner. We may not even realize that we expect things until we don’t get them.
Who puts these expectations in our heads? Could be parents who insist on telling us what we deserve or what they deserved and didn’t get. Often it is the media with love stories containing grand romantic gestures. It could be observation of other relationships from the outside. Whatever the reason, most people go into a relationship with expectation and often months or even years into it, they are still expecting.
So many are doomed to experience the letdown. Either there are feelings that the relationship has lost the “fire” or someone isn’t getting what they “deserve.” Regardless, many relationships are abandoned due to unrealized, unrealistic expectations.
Can this be avoided? You may agree with me or you may not. I can’t wait what you have to input!
8 thoughts on “What to Expect When You’re Expecting: The Letdown”
I think we can all become selfish and think of our own needs and I think some of it is warranted at times but it’s the communication piece that’s important even more than ever when we feel like that. To be able to tell our partner how we feel and have the partner really hear us is the part that helps me. Sometimes my husband hears and sometimes he doesn’t just as I do the same. But it’s the times he hears that validates me and makes me feel I’m in the right place.
I think flexibility, tolerance, and compromise are key ingredients.
Don’t get married too young. That was my mistake.
Right? Get a little experience under your belt.
45 years…this year…of ups and downs…give and take…and loving and liking. No expectations. Just a lot of hard work…without letup. hugs…
Yup! I love being married. It can be work but Andy mostly makes it easy.