Listening to a client who came into the store, I heard this statement, “I just don’t have time to waste on things I don’t care about. I only spend time on activities I really enjoy.”
Interesting. So I assume you are a recluse then? You don’t have many friends? You don’t find it easy to foster relationships with people? Are you happy being alone with your passions? If that’s true, more power to you! I know there are introverts who need time away from others to recharge. But does that really mean they want to be alone and without friends? FOREVER?! ALL THE TIME?! I doubt it.
If you only spend time on activites/passions that are important to YOU, you will rarely, if ever find it easy to foster relationships with people around you. How many yous are there out there? How many people are going to connect with you on every activity that you find important?
I get so sick of hearing people say, “I just need to get out of here.” Usually in reference to leaving your physical living situation and moving to another town or state or country or planet (wait…). Truth: If you can’t be happy anywhere, you can’t be happy somewhere. What I’m saying is – It’s not about location. Happiness is a state of mind. A change of location is not going to change anything accept your location. It’s not going to change who you hang out with, seek out for entertainment or find for a working situation.
I’ve moved alot in my life and each time I think I might just be able to reinvent myself but the truth is… I’m me. I’m always going to be me. I’m going to make friends that are the same as the ones I made in the last location. I’m going to be the same person everywhere. Yes, I change and morph but not with location.
People can’t run from themselves and self is the only thing that is going to determine happiness.
I love movies and TV. I have admired the “looks” of actors and been in favor of one or two above the rest for their acting skills alone. However, I have always known that actors are just that – actors. They are acting for the world and we never see the real them so I never got to attached to any.
Then there was “reality TV.” I was a skeptic of this as well as far as getting to know the person and their personality and how they would be in real life. They can edit those things however they want and although that makes for an entertaining hour at the end of a long work day, it’s not like I get attached to any character in particular or feel like I know more about them.
Then there was Penn.
Oh, Penn Jillette. Finally someone I get. Someone I believe actually puts himself, his real self out there. I don’t know if I’m right about him but I hope I am. He’s awesome. He’s real in a world of make believe. He’s just what I want when I’m feeling annoyed at that man that keeps telling me to pay no attention to the man behind the curtain. Penn throws the curtain back and says, “Here I am in all my geeky, freaky glory. I’m not going to change. I’m not going to dumb it down. I’m not going to lie. I’m me and I’m on TV.”
When I’m asked who I would most like to meet in this world, who is still living (and excluding Jesus Christ), I say without hesiation, Penn Jillette.
Using the same rules stated above, who would you most like to meet and why?