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What to Expect When You’re Expecting: Uncompromising Rigidity

How many of us are selfish and want our own way? (Yes, you better be raising your hand because we all are.)

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Truth: When two people hop into a relationship, they are saying, “Hey, let’s do (at least some) stuff together.” They aren’t always going to agree and they aren’t always going to want to give in. Couples don’t have to do everything together. But if you never agree and never compromise then you aren’t in a relationship. You are roommates… maybe.

You cannot expect your partner to change or do things. We cannot change other’s – only ourselves. This means that you, yes you, must be the one to compromise. DON’T GIVE YOUR PARTNER A LOOK RIGHT NOW!

You have to be the one to change your mind.

When Andy and I first got married, I had a very definite way I wanted the house kept. When he didn’t meet that expectation, I had three options: divorce him, keep up the house myself with no expection for him to help, change my mind about how the house should be kept. Option 2 and option 3 are equally acceptable in this situation. Do not expect you partner to do anything. Either do it yourself or give up the expectation that it should be done.

Cinema vs. DVD at home

There is a big difference between watching a DVD/VHS/Digital Download/BluRay/Whatever the hell they come up with next and going to the cinema to watch the latest and greatest.

1. Dressing for the occasion. We live in a small town but even here, we need to put on pants to see a movie in the theater. If I wait or watch again in the comfort of my own home, the emphasis is definitely on COMFORT. I get to watch in my PJs which are the best part of my wardrobe. Home Viewing 1, Cinema 0

2. The seating. At a cinema, you may find yourself being admonished by attendants to keep your feet of the sticky seats, which is undeniably how they got that way in the first place. It’s kind of a toss up as to whether the arm rest will lift and let you snuggle up with the significant other you may have come with. At home, you are the master of your own domain. I have a Sheldon like complex that causes me to want my own spot for every television involved experience. Home Viewing 2, Cinema 0.

3. The screen size and sound set up. It is a very different thing to sit in your PJs on your couch, eating potato chips and crying through Beaches for the umpteenth time and watching Avengers in the cinema with a huge screen and surround sound that pulls you into all the action. I love superhero movies IN THE CINEMA. I rarely choose them at home. The experience just isn’t the same. I’d say this one totally depends on the movie. It’s a draw.

4. The food. I make my own snacks and they taste better and I know where they came from. It takes more work and more planning but it’s better than the expense and the disappointment of the theater snacks. My husband always spends $10 on water and candy. I always think, “Nachos. Yum.” I spend $6 on something I’m sure is a chemical compound unsuccessfully flavored like spicy cheese and stale chips from the 60’s. Inevitably, I am completely disgusted by them once they pass my lips. My kids love them. Unexplainable. Home Viewing 4, Cinema 1

5. Timing. Waiting to view something at home, which for me usually means waiting for Netflix to deliver it to my house or for it to hit some type of streaming program really puts me at a disadvantage at the water cooler. I’m subject to spoilers on blogs, people revealing plot holes and when everyone else is discussing the philosophical meaning of the carnivorous island in Life of Pi, I’m sitting at my desk with my fingers in my ears singing, “La la la la la..,” In that really annoying way. Home Viewing 4, Cinema 2

6. Child care. We are parents. We have to find a babysitter. This upped the expense of the cinema from $16 to $36. I generally pay about $20 for someone to come and sit in my house while my children are sleeping and call 911 if something awful happens. Wait until it’s on DVD and we put the kids to bed, wait until they are silent and hope that we can stay awake long enough to take in the rented movie. I’m still giving this to the Home Viewing. 5 to 2. Not looking good for the cinema.

7. Cost. Between the above mentioned childcare and snacks, we are at $36. At this cinema in our small little town it cost $9 to go to a movie. That has the cost at $56 for a night out with the hubby. Home Viewing 6, Cinema 2.

8. The walk out factor. If the movie sucks, after all that expense, you are NOT going to walk out of a movie at the cinema. You are going to SUFFER and LIKE IT! You are out! Enjoy the damn movie. If you watch it for free on Netflix streaming or even if you only rented it at the Redbox for $1 (didn’t the recently up that price a bit?), you are much more inclined to save on brain cells and turn off something that is bringing down your IQ by the frame. Home Viewing 7, Cinema 2.

9. Audience participation. When you head to the cinema, depending on the movie, you are likely to experience most if not all of the following: cell phone going off, baby crying, someone needing to leave for the restroom and walking past you in the smallest aisle ever, laughing teenagers throwing popcorn at the screen, teenagers making out behind you and kicking you in the head, and possibly, as we learned during The Hobbit, an arrest or two or maybe three. Home Viewing 8, Cinema 2.

10. The DATE factor. Leaving the house, going out to dinner and extending your time away from the house, the kids, life, makes the cinema going experience worth it for every parent who has ever had cabin fever or anyone who is on a first date and doesn’t know what else to do. Six points for the cinema just for making life bearable and being the first date go to activity. That brings it into balance. Home Viewing 8, Cinema 8.

Thoughts?

CGI and the Shakes

I went to see The Hunger Games and there was something awry and I thought, maybe it was just that one film.

Then I went to see Man of Steel.

Am I the only one who hates the “new” filmography? I hate all the shaking!!!

I was watching Superman dash around the screen and as much as I loved the story and the acting and the beautiful people, I find it hard to watch these movies because they are SHAKING all around and giving me a headache. I feel like yelling at the camera guy, “Pull out! Pull back. You are to close and we can’t see!” Come on! He’s Superman! It was, is a great story, great script, great acting and I feel like I need to close my eyes for the ENTIRE MOVIE!

And now they are going to do one of my favorite children’s series (Peter and the Starcatchers) and having the same director as The Hunger Games, I’m afraid its going to be the earthquake in a theater all over again.

Am I getting old? I’m I getting cynical? I remember my parents hating all the CGI and to be fair, when they did the most recent Star Wars movies, I was annoyed that a main character was allowed to be CGI the whole way through and talk like a 2 year old to boot. As much as I loved the beauty of Avatar, I thought it was more video game than movie. Maybe I’m not old. Maybe I’m just the only one who wants to say it… bring back a bit of reality and keep it watchable.

Ok, to end on an AWESOME movie note… the stuntmen of the most recent Spiderman (and there is a squeal coming out as well using the same stunt crew) did a lot of the swinging and jumping and skateboarding and handstands and all that awesomeness FOR REAL! Not a lot of CGI there and not much in the way of shaky filmography. I kinda love that movie! I’m big into the superhero, comic book movie genre. (If anyone else loves this genre like me, what are your thoughts on the upcoming TV series The Agents of Shield.)

Bear in mind, this is all from a movie goer viewpoint. I’m no filmographer. I don’t know anything about making a movie. I just like to watch them… usually.

Thoughts? Do any of you have my same motion sickness frustrations in the summer blockbusters? Is there a movie you particularity love that you can recommend to me? What are your thoughts on CGI in the movies?