What to Expect When You’re Expecting: Kids

If you expect that when you get married and have a baby, that baby will be first in both your lives…. get over it now. Babies and kids take up alot of time because they can’t feed themselves and they need to be changed and then they have to be dressed and even when they are partially self sufficient, we can’t boot them out the door at 6 and expect them to be successful. They have to be supported and taught.
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However, this should not take priority over your husband/wife. This has been discussed over and over at length, even by me. I’m not divorced and I don’t have other children that are not Andy’s and he has no other’s that are not mine. It’s hard for me to comment on a situation with which I have no experience but I would venture to say that even when you’re children are not mutual, they should not take priority over your marriage.

One way you can show this to your spouse is by getting some childcare every now and then (weekly is ideal but not always practical), so you can both do something together without the kids. Another way is to not allow the kids to interrupt a conversation between mommy and daddy. Another good way to to set a very strict bedtime (in your room) time for the kids allowing mommy and daddy to have a few minutes alone at the end of everyday to communicate without being asked for snacks, water, help with this project, a story, and/or any other plethora of things they want from you.

What are your ideas? How do you make time for your spouse in a parenting world that makes the kids kings?

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6 thoughts on “What to Expect When You’re Expecting: Kids”

  1. I have no experience of marriage or kids to be commenting on it. But i do often see new parents under stress, sleep deprivation and dealing with lot of other issues. I ll certainly consider this a tip

  2. I also have no experience with marriage or kids, however the relationship that you described is exactly how my parents behaved. They were very loving of both my brother and I, however they enacted a strict bedtime, date nights for themselves, and an established respect of their leadership and relationship with Christ, which I think molded the way my brother and I approach life. I hope to never have kids, but if I do, I’ll definitely take your advice!

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