Small Town Life – Paradise Lost

Sometimes you have friends… and then they aren’t friends anymore.

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From Milton’s Paradise Lost

Maybe you lose that friendship over a huge fight. Maybe it ends in disagreement so deep the friendship can’t recover.

Maybe you lose that friendship because of distance. Facebook acquaintance doesn’t necessarily constitute a deep friendship.

Maybe you lose that friendship over life changes. You switch life groups – maybe from single to married or married without children to married with children or something like that.

Maybe you grow apart because of differing growth and ideals.

The question is, how hard should we fight for these friendships that once meant so much to us and then either are strained or falling by the wayside? Something I’ve been pondering today.

Because life isn’t like Friends or Big Bang Theorytumblr_static_431311 or Grey’s Anatomy. You can’t have betrayal and then rebuild relationships. More often than not, people don’t make up and they don’t stay friends forever and your wife or husband isn’t going to be ok with your best friend being of the opposite sex (gay or straight).  So people will change circumstances and relationships will change and friendships will end sometimes slowly and sometimes in fiery flames. I don’t know how to combat that or even if I should try.

the wifey

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3 thoughts on “Small Town Life – Paradise Lost”

  1. I had a falling out with my best friend, my choice…a stupid one that took years for me to realize it. Fortunately when I realized my mistake and contacted her she was gracious about my disappearance from her life and enthusiastically welcomed me back! We had that special friendship that you could just pick up like you had seen each other just yesterday.

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